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Overloading children with tutoring and activities: The dangerous trap parents fall into. Oana Zapca: "We often don’t even know why we’re doing it!"
"At home, what is this burnout about? It's about exhaustion!" said Alexandra Șerb. She explained that parents often contribute to this exhaustion. "This exhaustion, somehow, as parents, we can manage it because we put the pressure. It also comes from school because we have to cover the material, but let's say that it's covered, that the job is done at school. But as a parent, I want more! I want to take the child to this and that and that... That's the problem!"
Alexandra Șerb emphasizes the importance of a healthy balance: "There must be a balance because we function in cycles of rest & digest, of on & off. We sleep at night, wake up in the morning, do our work, and so on. If we have a more stressful period, we need to allow ourselves to have a more relaxing period. This is not a whim; it's about how our nervous system works to prevent us from reaching exhaustion."
For children, the balance between school activities and recreational ones is essential.
"Especially children, who are in the midst of development, need to alternate concentration with relaxing activities throughout the day, time for homework with playtime, structured work time with idle time", added Alexandra Șerb at Părinți Prezenți, a program by ParintisiPitici.ro.
The expert highlighted how parental pressure can contribute to children's exhaustion, even when intentions are good.
"A parent might say, in the desire to have the child do this and that, 'Oh, let's send them to tennis, it's fun, not so demanding.' Or any activity that seems relaxing for the parent. But the fact that they're sent to an activity, there are expectations there. They don't have the space, the time to decide if they want to get bored, if they want to run, if they want to play with Lego or just sit or do whatever they want", explained Alexandra Șerb.
"Mamă la pătrat" emphasized the need to offer children the freedom to manage their time and activities.
"We need to give children the opportunity during the day to have free play and decide for themselves how they spend their time. I think this is very important! Even if I feel like I'm sending them somewhere nice for them to go. The child needs to prove something there, they need to check off some tasks there", added Alexandra Șerb.
Alexandra's message is clear: children need unstructured free time, where they can choose for themselves what they want to do. This is essential for their healthy development and for preventing exhaustion caused by excessive structured activities. Parents need to understand that sometimes the best activity for a child is to have no planned activities at all and have the freedom to explore and play freely.
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