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Overloading children with tutoring and activities: The dangerous trap parents fall into. Oana Zapca: "We often don’t even know why we’re doing it!"
Claudia Chiru recounted a recent question received from a parent: "I just received a question from a parent: 'Who are you to take my child's phone?"
In response, the primary school teacher emphasized her role in children's education, mentioning that she was the person who taught them to write, read, and count. Additionally, she added that she is also the person who could potentially hold those children back a grade. This question brought a sense of disappointment.
"Who am I? Well, I'm the person who taught them to write, read, and count. And I'm also the person who could hold them back a grade. I answered, I believe. But, I wished this question hadn't come up because now there can no longer be any talk of respect between me and that parent. And when you show such a lack of respect to the person who has been with your child day in and day out for 5 years, I think you should pack your bags and go somewhere, do something, because you've completely failed, both as a person and as a parent. No, you're not useful to society, and your child will be just like you. They're just like you because they're on their phone all day, every day", clarified Claudia Chiru.
Claudia Chiru: "We have a huge problem with phones! Huge, huge, huge! People don't even imagine how big it is because they don't work with children daily, they don't see the effects that I see by being with the children every day. It's very easy from behind a desk to say let's do this, let's do the opposite, let's do, undo, without listening to the person who is there every day with the children.
I see them! So, if there's a fire in the corner, they're on their phones! The fire is burning, they don't put down the phone, they don't lift their gaze! If you don't shout, they don't hear you, they don't respond to stimuli, to normal speech, they smell smoke, hear noise, but they don't detach from their phones! So, these children are dying! They don't have survival instincts, they don't know how to control themselves, and they can't control their impulses and emotions. It's something out of the ordinary!" .
Psychologist Radu Leca expressed his concern about the negative impact of children's excessive mobile phone use directly and alarmingly. The expert highlighted that besides the physical effects, such as obesity, mobile phones can also contribute to mental problems such as anxiety and depression.
"Claudia (note: prof. Claudia Chiru), let's connect and let me provide an upgrade.
We have this: the obese child is on the phone. The obese child, aged 3 to 16, is on the phone. The preadolescent, adolescent, is on the phone! Everything related to anxiety, it's in there, inside the phone, depression, it's there.
And now, let's add the icing on the cake and say this: the future casino player, on the phone, online, that's where they are, that's what they know how to do. Because all the games in the virtual space, are downloaded for free, they offer you levels accessed for free, between levels, they get an ad for a casino, for fast food, for drinks, for sports betting. This is the future!", stated Radu Leca.
Claudia Chiru brought up an important aspect and highlighted the influence games have on students' thinking. She exemplified this through her experience teaching mathematics to third graders.
"I was doing math exercises with my students, those funnel-type ones. In third grade, you only do operations with round brackets. And they say to me: 'I took this number from the bracket and moved it over with the sign changed.' Well, why did you take it from there, it's in the bracket. You have to follow the rule that says when you have subtraction and addition, you solve them in the order they appear. 'Well, I can take it from there, move it.' That's all from the games! Because in games, what happens? Anyone can fly, anyone can swim, they grow wings, you die, immediately you get a life, you start over, nothing happened.
I can take a number anytime from math and it will give me a result and I'll be very surprised: 'Why are you crazy? I solved it correctly! I can take that number from there.' Well, you can't because we have some rules in math, let me tell you. You know them! Use them! Three times, four times, five times, the same mistake. Why? Because in games, mistakes don't matter. You don't learn from mistakes!", recounted Claudia Chiru.
"And parents don't learn at all!", added Radu Leca.
"It's the greatest treasure we have: mistakes, but we need to acknowledge them and learn something from them", Claudia Chiru further added.
Alexandra Șerb highlighted the danger of leaving children in front of mobile phone screens as a solution to avoid difficult interaction with them.
She warned that when we resort to these extremes, we are avoiding the responsibility of connecting with our children.
"If we go to extremes like leaving the child on the phone because it's difficult for me to connect with the child, that's what's happening we're avoiding connection when we leave the child abandoned there, in front of the screen", said Alexandra Șerb.
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